I leaned over to Jordan in the Cescaphe Ballroom and admitted, “I only know a few people here. But I kinda feel compelled to make sure everyone has fun tonight.”
She rolled her eyes at what sounded like a vain thought that was unfiltered by an extended cocktail hour.
The truth was that the bride and groom, Courtney and Taylor, didn’t need me on that dance floor. They are an amazing couple with fun friends and an incredible band. Their dance floor was absolutely bumpin’ whether I was on it or not.
But that compelling sense of purpose to earn my spot on the guest list and enhance the overall wedding experience was very real.
So when Jordan chuckled and gave me a “You need serious help” look , I figured I should probably think about what inspired this sentiment. Because it wasn’t the first time that I felt this way. In fact, it’s been a common feeling that I’ve experienced whenever I’m in certain environments interacting with certain people.
I was determined to bring joy to Mikey’s Scottsdale Bachelor Party the previous weekend.
I felt inspired to bring value when we went out in West Chester after Casey’s bridal shower.
I feel compelled to maximize the experience when I meet with clients, officiate a wedding, or just entertain Jordan, Charlie, and Jack at breakfast. And for the past 80+ blog posts, I feel it every time I click, “Publish.”
The big question is: What’s driving it?
When people give me an opportunity, an open mind, a moment of their engagement, or (I’ll admit it) a little attention, the intention tends to perpetuate. I began to notice a clear cycle- or as they say in the business books- a “Personal flywheel.” Here’s what I’ve come up with:
I strive to bring consistent value and joy to family, friends, and clients.
Which helps me
Cultivate engaging and fulfilling relationships and experiences.
Which inspire me to
Become a better family man, friend, and advisor.
Which will enable me to
Bring more consistent value and joy to family, friends, and clients.
So when there’s a couple like Courtney and Taylor getting married, and I’m invited to celebrate with them on the biggest night of their lives, I’m compelled to burn holes in the soles of my dancing shoes.
And when 20 guys get together at a giant Air BnB in Scottsdale to give Mikey a weekend he’ll never forget, count on me being fully locked in.
When I hear the “Dada” chirping from the crib upstairs at 6:30 am every morning, I’m ready to seize the day.
When friends or family come over for Holidays, gather around the fire pit, or run around our backyard, it’s our intention to make our guests want to come back again.
And when a client asks for quality financial advice, I’m determined to make it well worth their time, money, and trust.
The joy and value that I get from these relationships and experiences with my family, friends, and clients, fuels me to focus even more on how I can generate more value and joy for them. And as long as my health, wealth, and clarity stay in tact, nothing can really stop the momentum of the wheel once it starts going.
My flywheel was really spinning throughout April 2022. Some of it was powered by people I just met. Some of it was accelerated by old friends that I haven’t seen in a while. Some of it was charged by the family and friends closest to me. But thanks to whatever and whomever was powering it, I found myself laughing harder, thinking deeper, smiling bigger, caring more, and getting lower on the dance floor.
For those people and events that helped power this wheel, I’m grateful for them. And for those of you that are wondering about your own personal flywheel:
What spins yours?
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